PARSHAS VAYEITZE 5781
Divrei Torah from Shaya Gross z'l
[Editor’s note: As a memory of my beloved brother Shaya, I would like to continue sending
out his pearls of wisdom that he has shared with all of you in the past. For some of you
this may ring a bell and for others it may appear to be totally new. May the learning of
Shaya’s Divrei Torah inspire us to change our ways and thereby give an Aliya to the
neshama of our dear beloved Shaya whom we miss so much. A special thank you to
Aaron Friedman for always looking over the divrei torah.]
EXTENDING OUR I
Rashi quotes from the Gemara that the twelve stones that composed Yaakov’s bed
complained, as each one wanted to be the pillow for Yaakov’s head. Hashem combined
the twelve stones into one big stone and that ended the complaining.
Why didn't the twelve PARTS of the stone still complain, each wanting Yaakov’s head on
The commentators answer that when you are one, there is no place for disputes or
quarrels. Just as no one would get upset at his back when it needs some rest, or at his
stomach when it needs some food, so too if you are truly ‘one’ with another person [or in
this case, an object] then it is silly and senseless to fight.
However, I still have two questions that remain unanswered: Why didn't Hashem make the
pillow one stone in the first place? Secondly, the Seforim tell us that everything that
occurs to Yaakov in this Parsha is a foreshadowing of Klal Yisroel in exile. What does this
episode foretell and signify?
I think it is symbolic of Yaakov's twelve sons; they began as twelve Shevatim, each with
their own personality, and it is their job to use their uniqueness as part of the larger
mosaic called Klal Yisroel. Hashem wants each of us to have our uniqueness but to
appreciate the uniqueness and special qualities of the other Shevatim of Klal Yisroel, and
morph ourselves into one large being just as the rocks did!
We are all born self-centered, yet we know that we are supposed to reach out and care for
others. How do we achieve that? Rav Shimon Shkop explains the strategy is to extend
your 'I' [i.e. who you consider ‘yourself’ to be]. A good person will extend his ‘I’ to include
his whole family. A greater person will extend his ‘I’ to include all his relatives and friends.
An even greater person will extend his ‘I’ to include all the people in his city, and a true
Gadol will extend his ‘I’ to include all of Klal Yisroel [and all of humanity].
May we all try to keep extending our ‘I’ to more and more people, hence we will consider
all of them to be part of ourselves, which will enable us to be at peace with all of them. We
will then G-d willing merit the innumerable blessings that come when one is at peace with
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